After having spend most of my summer at home with my 2 boys I am realizing how immensely important my purpose is in being a mother. Having a business now, I have felt guilty for not “working” and earning a bi-weekly income in the way I have in the past. However it hit me – that the “work” I do with my children is priceless.
We all know that being a parent and mother is a priceless role.
But I feel in our society this has been forgotten.
We are all becoming so busy with other priorities – commuting to and from work, spending all day at work, thinking about work when we are home. Even as stay at home parents we become busy with housework, errands and whatever else fills up our day.
I feel in this shuffle of life – many of us are forgetting the precious lives of our little children.
I am saying this – because I know I have done this myself. I have put paid work, housework and many other things in front of being FULLY PRESENT with my children. And yes I understand that an income is needed to support our families, however there is also a balance.
I too have spend countless evenings in the kitchen thinking about my day at work. As my children speak to me – half my mind was elsewhere and I barely made eye contact with my children.
And yes all those chores needs to get done. But they will get done.
I am learning sometimes I need to just stop when my children are speaking to me, make eye contact with them, connect with my heart and listen.
I am realizing…
My pain is that I was not listened to and heard in the way I felt I needed to be when I was little.
And now my purpose is to listen and be present to my children (and others) whole-heartedly. I do have other purposes too – sharing for another day!
I am not perfect so there will be times where my busy-ness will catch up with me. However I also know that I am perfectly imperfect. And with awareness such as the above, I can create change. Moreover, change has a domino effect on others.
Avdeep is an occupational therapist and coach who enables clients to make positive shifts in their thoughts and beliefs. She creates a space that allows clients become aware of their limiting beliefs and uses techniques to shift these beliefs. Through these processes clients can recognize and live to their highest potential.