Christmas and the holidays can bring up a lot around personal boundaries, right?
Unconsciously you definitely know when boundaries are being broken – you start to feel angry, irritable, or just feel off yet you can’t put your finger on why. And it’s often when you haven’t spoken up for yourself.
It is such a practice to be aware of boundaries and maintain them, especially when life gets busy and stressful.
We are so caught up in thoughts – of what “has to be done”, “what SHOULD be done”. What we think others, society, culture and so forth expects of us.
It takes awareness to remain CONSCIOUS.
Here are 3 types of boundaries:
1) Collapsed: when you say yes to everyone and everything, at the expense of your own health or time
2) Rigid: when you are emotionally detached and don’t allow others close to you
3) Positive/Healthy boundaries: when you have a good balance in being able to connect with others and at the same time stand up for your needs.
When it comes to boundaries, the biggest thing I have learnt is BEING ABLE TO SAY NO and without guilt. Yet also with compassion for myself and others. It really is an essential part of self-care.
It truly is about being in tune with who you are and listening to yourself.
I am curious – are you aware of your boundaries? What kind of boundary/boundaries do you have? Keep in mind they could change from situation to situation and how you are feeling.
Are you able to say No, with ease?
If not – whats challenging about it? If yes – what has helped you?
Avdeep is an occupational therapist that enables clients to overcome anxiety, stress, trauma, limiting thoughts and beliefs. Through deep listening and various techniques she guides clients to process and release negative emotions. She inspires clients to let go of judgement, to live with self-compassion and to reconnect with their spirit – in order to live a happier and more meaningful life. She beautifully blends her formal training with intuition to create change with clients. She brings mindfulness, Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), HeartMath Coaching and energy work to client sessions.
